I am from the camp that believes that love does not hurt. Love is many things but it never leaves you crying huddled in some corner as someone berates you. As you may know at first they are so sorry, but eventually even the apologies dwindle down. An abuser will break you down until you are apologizing to him for making him so angry that he has to hurt you.
If you are being abused, you are not being loved. There is no such thing as a battered woman who is cherished and uplifted. You deserve the best that life can offer. You deserve understanding and a chance to build a life for yourself that does not include people who know nothing but how to manipulate or gain control forcefully.
Remember:
-Love does not hurt.
-Love doesn't take away your self-esteem.
-Love isn't good sex.
-Love isn't "I'm sorry, I'll never do it again".
-Love isn't living in fear.
... most importantly.
You can begin again. You are not alone. Even though it feels like not another single soul understands your pain or your position, I do. The hardest step you'll have ever to take is that first step, after that, you will find yourself running with the excitement of possibility to a new life. There will be bumps and you will have to work hard on believeing in you, but you will find a happier life.
Take the step.
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